The lost art of taking it sloooooooooow.
Recently we (society) seem to have regained our appreciation for all things slow, “slow food” being my personal favorite. So I thought, why not apply this rule to the rest of life?
A good friend of mine recently told me I was, “giving it up too easily and too quickly”. Once the slap in face offense wore off, it actually make me think whether this was leading to the lack of connection, I was beginning to feel with my lovers.
He had a point, maybe I had crossed the line from “medium slutty” (a label I was comfortable with) to “easy = high-level slutty” – something I had not heard since my 80 year old father once tried to dispense dating advice at 21.
His exact words, “No man likes an easy or loose woman”, this advice flawed in so many ways, was at the time, well, amusing. As you can see, I have a long history of being called slutty by various men in my life.
The scary thing is, I now totally get off being treated rough and called a whore in bed, but that is a whole separate post which my therapist is also desperate to read. Oh Daddy, what did you do?
Back to slow, many of you might think how boring, but I must say it is quite the contrary.
It gives you the time to actually know someone, to actually decide if their mind and not just body (or even despite it) is attractive enough to you to contemplate getting naked and jumping around like primates.
Just imagine you love him even before you sleep with him.
I am just going to leave that there.
You have been waiting so long that you know it is going to be HOT, as in smokin’ HOT because every essence of you wants it. Every nerve wants it, your mind and body and soul want it. You are no longer at the whim of your VJJ…. Well you kind of are but at least you have waited long enough to know that not just the VJJ is leading the decision.
You know it won’t be BAD, because you already have a real connection, one that you both want to strengthen by sleeping together, not create by sleeping together. This frankly is where we see the biggest spike in quality ever known.
My final argument, courting!
You have had a chance to wear all those nice dresses and shoes and you feel sexy and pretty and appreciated – I am reintroducing the fashion of courting to my world.
Time to get old school. Let’s take it slow – simply because you deserve it.
p.s. If “it” is bad, like real bad and you have just invested 6 mths I can only recommend you buy a Womanizer. #sorrynotsorry